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Dear Friends,

Do you ever get in moods where you just feel like being alone?  Honor that feeling.  Sometimes it feels good to be alone and comfortable with ourselves, just enjoying our time to read, meditate, walk, etc.

But this is not what I mean by isolate.  I mean wanting to hide under the covers when the alarm clock goes off, wanting to stay at home and avoid social situations because they make you uncomfortable, not feeling connected to others, feeling alienated.

Like I said, there is a certain healthy level of alone time we should all strive for.  However, you need to be aware when your desire to be alone is no longer healthy but originates from a need to separate from others.

I think it’s vital to search within ourselves for answers.  Why do people frighten you?  Is it because you worry about their judgments, are afraid of confrontation of any kind, even if it is appropriate, or want to please others at all costs?

Everyone has their own “writing on their walls,” their experience in life thus far that defines their set of beliefs and habits and how they view the world.  Whenever you disagree with someone, remind yourself that it is never personal between two people.  It’s always the “writing on the wall” that creates conflict.

Every single day, you and I judge other people, and we are being judged, good or bad.  This is impossible to avoid.  Try to make peace with the process and be confident in who you are.  Use EFT to clear away disrupted energy that keeps you in fear and isolation of others.

 Have a blessed day!

Angie Monko

PS:  If you’re really serious about doing something different about your weight and body image issues, see the attached qualifying form. http://www.harmonyharbor.com/qual.html

PSS:  Do you have friends and family that are also interested in creating their own destinies of joy and freedom?  Send them to www.harmonyharbor.com/squeeze.html.

Dear Friends,

I believe the mission of  The Center for Human Potential should be clearly one of reaching for love.  How does this sound?

Mission Statement:  To love each individual we touch through our programs and services and teach them to do the same thing, creating a domino effect that permeates throughout the world, freeing humanity and celebrating our one-ness.

I love the simplicity of this!  Our connection to one another is love.  How easy it is to forget this!  I feel like crying right now because I am so grateful for this awareness.  When I reach for control, fear settles in, and love leaves.  I have been feeling fearful lately.  I fear that I am inadequate to do what I feel is expected of me.  I know I’m meant to do something of importance because I can feel it. 

But what if I am too ego-centered and can’t get out of my own way?  What if I believe that I don’t have enough energy to do all of this?  I tend to look at my flaws, and I need to break this habit.  In other words, what if I’m too worried of what others think of me?  Like right now, I’m wondering if anyone who is reading this will think I’m a poor leader because I’m admitting I have all of these faults and insecurities. 

Well, that is who I am right now.  I realize that I’m writing this more for myself than anyone else.  I choose not to worry about what you think of me and hope that you know my intentions spring from love.  I pray for the strength to see my light and honor it.  I pray for the courage to love myself with all of my defects.  I pray the same for you. 

Peace & Blessings,

Angie Monko

Dear Friends,

Last night, while on my way to see Gregg Braden with my two daughters, Maddie (13) and Chelsea (15), I nearly had an car accident, and it really frightened me. I was heading east on Page to 170S, a way that I never go.  There were stop lights and I was hitting the green lights.  I was probably going a little too fast, but I was alert to my surroundings. 

And then all of a sudden, my lane ended and there was a concrete pit right in front of me.  At first I thought it was a huge pit hole, but I quickly realized it was more than that, and my lane had ended.  I hadn’t seen a sign that told me to merge right and that the lane was ending.  I quickly veered to the right to avoid being catapulted into this concrete pit. That would have been bad news because we were probably going 55 mph and it would have been like hitting a tree.

I hit the lip of the crevass and veered into my right lane and then across another lane, weaving in between two cars.  I was embracing myself for the impact of hitting another vehicle at any moment.  It happened so quickly, within a matter of 30 seconds.  But all was alright and I just kept driving forward with no hickup to our evening plans.  I truly felt like I was an actress in a movie in a car chase scene.  I had hit a bump in the road and with amazing reflexes kept right on moving.  It was surreal.

I was very shaken of course.  The girls had no idea of what had just happened.  Maddie said she shut her eyes and thought she was dead since she expected to crash or something and didn’t.  Chelsea thought she was going to die.  The worst that came of this physically was that Chelsea spilled soup that she’d been eating all over her pants and attended the Gregg Braden event with a wet bottom.

I still don’t know how I could have not known my lane was ending.  I immediately started tapping to get my energy flowing again.   This helped, and I tapped some more this morning for the guilt I felt for nearly getting in a very serious accident with my kids.  I felt critical of myself for being unaware and of being so rushed to get some where. 

At the same time, I felt very grateful that no damage was done, except to scare me and the kids.  I was given an opportunity to learn that I must slow my life down and pay attention.  I also felt that my guardian angels were right there.  In the morning, I had prayed that a protective bullet be one mile all around myself and all those I pray for.  Today I forgive myself and move on.

Blessings,

Angie Monko

Dear Friends,

I just saw Gregg Braden last night.  He spoke about 12/21/2012.  His talk was very enlightening and informative and a little frightening, I must admit.  He offered a lot of science to prove how the Earth goes through cycles approximately every 5000 years.  We are currently in the 5th world age, and this world age is scheduled to end on 12/21/12.  Past ages have perished from fire, water, ice and wind.   The current age is symbolized by movement, not necessarily the earthly elements.

Does this mean the planet will end on 12/21/12?  No.  It does mean that the way we currently live will probably end.  He calls it a New World Age, a new way of thinking and being. 

He explains that nothing significant will happen on 12/21/12 itself most likely.  It is what happens over the next nearly three years leading up to that day that we need to focus on.  He presented this impressive date finder, where you plug in past disasters like a disease pandemic, US civil war, economic collapse, attack on US soil, etc.  Based on the cycles of the past, this date finder confirmed 9/11/01 as well as the swine flu pandemic in 2009. 

When Gregg plugged in past disasters like the attack on Pearl Harbor in 1941, the stock market crash in 1929 and the start of the US civil war in 1861, the date finder populated 2010 and 2011 as major times of the next potential disasters of like kind.   Because it seemed to predict other disasters with amazing accuracy, it was quite alarming to think that we are currently undergoing some great painful transitions right now. We are in the midst of it right now! 

The good news is that we have choice points, as he calls them.  How do we choose to respond as an individual, a local community, a state, a nation and a world?  It starts with you and me.  How do we want to live our daily life?  In fear or in love?  How we interact with our family, job and local community has widespread impact.  We are all connected, and it doesn’t take the entire planet to be on board with love to shift the balance of power.  This is promising! The more we stay in our power and don’t buy in to the fear that is permeating so many people, the more our love becomes infectious.

Gregg stressed that we haven’t “broken” the planet, as so many of us guiltily think.  That was comforting to hear.  The Earth has been worse off before now, and She recovered.  It’s almost like Planet Earth has a self-correcting mechanism.

Gregg ended the evening on a positive note.  He stressed that our ancestors have given us clues on how to prevent the disasters.   We do this by shifting from fear to love, from competition to cooperation.  We are connected.  He played a beautiful video and song called ”I Choose Love!”   I think we can do this, but we must take action now, starting by creating peace within ourselves, then within our homes, then at our jobs, and so on and so forth.

Peace & Blessings,

Angie Monko

Dear Friends,

It seems a lot of us don’t feel like we are good enough.  We don’t feel worthy of receiving good things in life.  Why not?

Think back to our childhood.  Were our parents supportive of us?  Did they praise us when we accomplished something important to us?  Did they let us know it was safe to make mistakes and that was the only way to learn and get better at things?

Was it safe to be us and just be kids?  Or did it feel like we had to act, think or believe a certain way to be accepted? Were we allowed to be children and not worry about living up to someone else’s standards of acceptable behavior?

If any of us answered yes to all of these questions, then we must realize how unique our childhood was.  Most of us are lucky to answer yes to 1 or 2 of these, because we grew up with parents who were struggling with their own issues and were doing the best they could.

If our childhood was especially difficult, we may at first want to challenge the statement that our parents did their best.  The truth is most parents do want the best for their children, and their intentions are good.  They love us in their own way, but their current skill set to deal with life is limited.

 If we can forgive our parents or anyone else who negatively impacted us and take responsibility for our emotions and life results up to this point, we’ll find greater peace. 

Notice, when I say forgive, I don’t mean condone what someone did to us.  I just mean to release them so the resentment no longer eats away at us.  Ever heard the saying:  “Resentment is like drinking poison and hoping the other person dies.”

Emotional freedom technique (EFT) can help us clear away limiting beliefs so we can discover our hidden power and potential.

Peace & Blessings,

Angie Monko, 314-422-6520

PS:  If you’re really serious about doing something different about your weight and body image issues, see the attached qualifying form. http://www.harmonyharbor.com/qual.html

PSS:  Do you have friends and family that are also interested in creating their own destinies of joy and freedom?  Send them to www.harmonyharbor.com.

Dear Friends,

Sometimes it is so difficult to make peace with my body.  I focus on excess fat, stretch marks from where I had my baby on my stomach and lower back, skin discoloration, and on and on.  I can get very paranoid that since I’ve turned 40 years old that staying fit will only get harder and I will get more wrinkles and age.  I’m glad that I don’t focus on these negatives every day, because I think I would be miserable and insane.

I truly think that if we are  serious about releasing excess weight, giving up the reliance on excess food for comfort and giving up the need for chaos and drama that we must make peace with our bodies exactly as they are.  So how do we see beyond our current physical results to who we want to become when reality stares us in the face every day?

When negative thoughts surface about how “ugly and disgusting” we are, we must refuse to listen.  We can say, “Cancel-Cancel” to the thought and then say to oursleves or out loud, “I love and honor the inherent wisdom of my body and the subconscious reasons it has for holding on to this weight.  I’m not just my body or my stories.  I am so much more than this!”  

I really like how that sounds and have been saying it.  We can personalize it and say who we are, like I might say that I’m a marvelous coach and a loving wife and mother.  We can focus on what we do well.  

I have a friend who is morbidly obese with a large amount of fat around her abdomen and elsewhere.  She has tried every diet approach imaginable and is eating very healthily, but the excess weight is stubborn.  It has started to come off recently.  She gave up the need to frequently weigh herself, and she has sent love to every cell of her body and said something like the above. 

She began with a body image of -15 on a 0 to 10 scale–seriously, it was a very low image.  Even though she hasn’t lost enough weight to satisfy herself and she has over 100 pounds to go, by sending her overweight body love instead of criticism, she has more energy and feels inspired.  And just after three months of doing this, she has a body image of 5 or 6.  This is tremendous! 

I know that she will eventually get to a normal weight as she raises her vibration.  By accepting herself, she wasn’t settling for her current results, but she was, in essence, saying, “If I never lose one pound, I love and accept you anyway.”  I am so proud of her!  There is much relief to be found in this approach. I hope you’ll try it!

Love & Blessings,

Angie Monko, 314-422-6520

PS:  If you’re really serious about doing something different about your weight and body image issues, see the attached qualifying form. http://www.harmonyharbor.com/qual.html

PSS:  Do you have friends and family that are also interested in creating their own destinies of joy and freedom?  Send them to www.harmonyharbor.com.

Hello Dear Friends,

Do you doubt yourself at times?  Maybe you’re confused as to how to eat since there are so many people trying to tell you how and what to eat.  What is right for you?  Perhaps you’re at a crossroads in your career and/or in a relationship and don’t know what to do.  I think learning to trust ourselves is vitally important. 

Sure, workshops and books are tremendously important to the extent that I apply what I learn.  But what if I am resistant because of a self-saboteur residing within my pysche that tells me I’m not adequate and competent enough to make good decisions?  I also think that we have to learn to trust ourselves to have enough courage and inspiration to practice what we learn.

Try this simple technique that will help strengthen your right brain, your creative side, your intuition.  I was told that if you do this technique daily, you will become phychic within weeks, even if you don’t have a “pyschic bone in your body.”  When I say pyschic, I mean you will develop your ability to trust your intuition and know things without understanding how you can know such things.  You’ll be better able to identify trends in others and in yourself that may or may not be serving you.   It also helps to balance the left and right sides of the brain.

Using your dominant handwriting hand, write a question that you’d like clarity on.  Then switch the pen to your non-dominant hand.  Hold it there for a few seconds.  Then write out the answer, calling on your connection to Source, your Higher Self for guidance.  You don’t even have to do that last part, but I do. 

You might be amazed at the wisdom that comes from the right side of the brain.   Again, you have to have the courage to look within and not be afraid of what you may find.  It’s okay.  Don’t worry.  Your Higher Self is trying to lead you to answers that are for your highest good and that will lead you to joy and peace and love and abundance–our true natures. 

Love & Blessings,

Angie Monko

314-422-6520

PS:  If you’re really serious about doing something different about your weight and body image issues, see the attached qualifying form. http://www.harmonyharbor.com/qual.html

PSS:  Do you have friends and family that are also interested in creating their own destinies of joy and freedom?  Send them to www.harmonyharbor.com.

The Center for Human Potential

Open House

Saturday, March 20th, 2010

Facilitated by: Angie Monko: Owner, Harmony Harbor

David Ketcherside: Owner, Media Box & Awaken St. Louis

You are invited to join us for a wonderful time of networking, fellowship and discussion with regards to helpingSt. Louis become a healthier and more loving place to live.  We are looking for anyone who helps individuals break through resistance to an amazing new potential on the physical, emotional, mental and spiritual planes.

1. Are you looking for a way to expand your practice and client base?
2. Are you interested in renting space that offers retail space to promote your products, an organic deli, workshop classrooms, a meditation room, aerobics and yoga facilities, etc.?
3. Are you interested in networking with other dynamic, like-minded individuals who share a common vision?
4. If you currently have your own established location, would you be interested in learning ways to collaborate and expand your business into a wider geographical area?
5. Are you interested in becoming part of an on-line community called Awaken St. Louis? 

^{Time:   5:00 – 5:30pm Meet & Greet}

                ^{5:30 – 6:00 pm Sharing of the Vision by David & Angie}

                ^{6:00 – 7:00 pm Questions & Answers, Complete an Interest Survey}

^{Location: Cheryl’s Herbs, 7159 Manchester Road, St. Louis, MO 63143}

^{To RSVP: Call Angie Monko – 314-422-6520}

Hello Friends,

To learn the mechanics of Meridian Tapping, go to my website, www.harmonyharbor.comand click on icon on the left called EFT  Weight Loss Program. 

Being overweight and eating excess food (or restricting food) is really not about the food.   Please take a few minutes to honestly answer the following questions.

1)      How long have you been over- or under-eating?

2)      Who else in your family is overweight or severely restricts his/her food?

3)      What happened the last time you reached your goal weight? (any specific event)?

4)      What emotions are you trying to tranquilize or avoid with food by being stuffed or restricting?

5)      What loss/emptiness are you trying to fill with extra food (or lack of)?

6)      What would you focus on if you didn’t obsess about food anymore?

7)      How would you spend your time if you didn’t eat compulsively anymore?

8)      What is the downside of losing weight (or gaining if that is what you need)?

9)      What is the upside of remaining overweight (or very thin)?

10)  I would rather have this pain than to ____________________.

11)  I have to  _____________ in order to _______________ (be perfect in order to be loved), (have money in order to feel safe), (be independent and not rely on others in order to be okay), etc.

Our eating issues are related to various emotional themes, and until we can clear certain blocks, we will not be able to have emotional freedom around food.  For example, if I took away your favorite food forever, how would you feel:  deprived, abandoned, lost, lonely/empty, anxious, guilty, afraid or angry? Perhaps you’d feel a multitude of these emotions.

You can tap on the various energy meridian tapping points.  The idea is that all negative emotions are created by a disruption in the body’s energy system.  You start by reciting a setup phrase that normally ends with “I deeply and completely love and accept myself anyway:”

“Even though I feel deeply deprived…and I’m insatiable, I deeply and completely love and accept myself anyway.” 

“Even though I feel hurt about being abandoned…”

“Even though I’m profoundly afraid of…..”

“Even though I can’t stop feeling angry…”

Tapping helps to clear out disrupted energy.  By getting to the route cause or core issues of why you eat, and then tapping on it, you begin to move the body’s “stuck” energy.  After successfully tapping, when you think of things that might trigger you emotionally like childhood issues, traumas, phobias, fears, etc., you won’t respond in the same ineffective manner.  You will gain a new perspective on your core issue.  This seems miraculous, but this is how it works.  It often works where nothing else does because you get to the reason you feel deprived or abandoned or angry….and then you heal that part of you. 

This is how I begin the process with someone who is ready to begin the healing process.  Just ask yourself if you’ve had enough pain and are ready to move forward.  How would it feel to be rid of emotions and body image issues that have held you back your entire life? It’s pretty empowering compared to how I lived my own life for about 33 years.

Peace & Blessings,

Angie Monko, 314-422-6520

PS:  If you’re really serious about doing something different about your weight and body image issues, see the attached qualifying form. http://www.harmonyharbor.com/qual.html

 PSS:  Do you have friends and family that are also interested in creating their own destinies of joy and freedom?  Send them to www.harmonyharbor.com.

Hello Friends,

Before we can release the physical excess weight, we must change our insides first.  Sometimes figuring out how to release weight or reliance on food/body image issues can feel like an FBI investigation.  It helps to keep things simple. 

Louise Hay describes the probable emotional cause for Overweight as:  Fear, need for protection.  Running away from feelings.  Insecurity, self-rejection.  Seeking fulfillment.  Her suggested new thought pattern:  I am at peace with my own feelings.  I am safe where I am.  I create my own security.  I love and approve of myself.

Now if you’re like me, when you first read the emotional cause, your conscious mind may want to rebel and declare these things untrue.  I’m only asking you to be open-minded on this and invite answers to come to you.  If you think you have a problem figured out (I just like to eat;  My family history shows a long line of obesity; My emotions have nothing to do with being fat; etc.), then you won’t ask the right questions.

Most of us overeat (or undereat) because we are trying to run away from anxiety, in the form of any and all negative feelings.   Sometimes it is hard to make the leap from the cause (how we currently feel, which can be frustrated, angry, lonely, bored, restricted, etc.) to the affirmation that Louise suggests.  You don’t have to go from “I’ll never lose weight” to “I am a slender, sexy woman!” in your mind.  In fact, if you do this, your conscious mind will reject it.  So your goal is to go toward a thought pattern that brings you slight, not drastic, relief.

Is it more believable to go from “I’ve always been overweight no matter what I’ve tried and always will be” to “Up until now I’ve always been overweight and struggled with accepting and loving myself, but I am surprising myself by being more calm and relaxed and accepting myself where I’m at.  I have no choice about my current results; they are what they are.  I can change my feelings about them and in so doing, my results are improving.  I’m changing on the inside first.” 

Or what about these statements?

“Even though I hate myself and my body, maybe I can give myself a break this very moment.  Maybe I can ust lighten up and think of 5 things I am grateful for.”

“Even though I see no way out of this fat dilemma and it’s depressing, I’m sorry for all of my self-rejection.   I am doing the best I can.”   

Just start where you’re at.  The only way to change outward appearance is to change inward belief.  Go for the next believable thought that brings relief, even if the relief is slight.  Put your action on finding better-feeling thoughts instead of expending too much energy on actions, like strict diets or restriction and deprivation.  You will sabotage your efforts if you don’t have subconscious buy-in that it is safe for you to release the weight.  You have to ease into and gradually stretch the comfort zone of your subconscious beliefs.  Don’t shock them into resistance.

Peace & Blessings,

Angie Monko, 314-422-6520