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Ho’oponopono & Tapping

Posted by Angie on December 31, 2009

Happy New Year’s Eve!

My hope for all of us is that we can learn to love and accept and forgive ourselves for where we are right now.  We must search within for peace and love and joy.  No external circumstance will give us this, not a perfect body, not if we win the lotto, and not if we have the best friends in the world.  Our answers lie within.  By loving ourselves we find the ultimate peace.

I recently learned about a Hawaiian system of healing called Ho’oponopono.  It encourages us to use love to heal everything in our existence by saying a few simple words.  Its beauty lies in its simplicity and straightforwardness. 

When we tap or practice ho’oponopono, our goal is to find peace and be at ease with life, relieve the anxiety, the fear, the anger, the resentment or anything that keeps us disconnected from Source.  We are simply doing this practice to find our Inner Being, connect with it and be INSPIRED to live our best life.  Life is easy, simple, fun and full of grace when we live from an inspired place. 

According to Dr. Hew Len, co-author of Zero Limits with Joe Vitale, we live either from inspiration or memory.  When we feel fear or negativity of any kind, we are living from memory.  Our subconscious mind is like a library full of records, and we are unaware of many records. 

The records or memories pop up and trigger certain emotions, which influence our behavior.  We can begin to live more and more frequently from inspiration.  When we do this, life feels like it’s flowing, it’s easy, it’s joyful.  We no longer struggle to achieve success.  It is almost as if it falls into our laps. 

Jerry and Esther Hicks have a similar view as Dr. Hew Len, just in different language.  They explain how our vibration (our energy resonation) determines everything.  When we have upstream, difficult thoughts and feelings, it re-enforces more of that which we don’t want. 

Discouragement heaps upon frustration heaps upon depression and results in lackluster results.  When we have downstream thoughts that encourage our inner selves and provide us hope, we live easier, breathe easier, and have better health, relationships and abundance.  I prefer the latter.

We need to be in a light, positive vibration that is congruent with our conscious desires in order for those desires to manifest.  We need to stay in the higher realms of positive vibration (love, joy, peace, compassion, humor) and accept and release the lower realms of vibration (hatred, anger, resentment, pity, fear) to attract that which we say we desire.  How do we do this?  I’m about to give you some homework to accomplish just that.

It is important to accept our current situation.  Make peace with it.  We ARE going to live from negative subconscious records (memories) that trigger us constantly.  We are going to experience upstream thoughts.  This is a given.  When this occurs, we say “I love you. I’m sorry.  Please forgive me. Thank you.” 

Remember, we are saying this to ourselves, not to Source.  Source already forgives and loves us.  We hold a lot of subconscious resentment towards ourselves that we’re not aware of.  So we must keep practicing this simple method.

Ho’oponopono takes the stance that we take 100% responsibility for not only our own life but every experience that is in our awareness, no exceptions.  This is not unhealthy co-dependence, however! 

It feels really good to realize that we have the power and control to live from a loving place and forgive ourselves for that part of us that created our external experience.  This really helps to heal ourselves and others.

Below are some daily enrichment exercises that you may choose to implement.

  1. Practice Ho’oponopono/Tapping:  Tune in to any negative emotions you might be feeling, regarding your weight, body image, relationships, career, money, anything.  You know what is going on subconsciously, which dictates all of your behavior, by your emotions and feelings.  Just feel the feeling and then tap on your karate chop, saying, “I love you.  I’m sorry.  Please forgive me. Thank you.”  Tap and say this 3X.  Next do three rounds of tapping, while repeating the phrases.
  2. During the day when you experience upstream thoughts, say “I love you” silently or out loud, whichever works for you.  The goal is for you to experience more and more upstream thoughts and love/acceptance of yourself.  The goal is to create a happy vibration regarding food, body image, family, money, or whatever creates stress for you.
  3. When you are angry at someone or something else, go within. Say to yourself, “Whatever part of me that caused this other person to be this way, I love you, I’m sorry, please forgive me, thank you.”  Send love to whatever is annoying you, instead of anger or fear.  What is truly annoying you is within you, not the other person, event or situation.  This is a big leap in maturity and an absolutely necessary step in healing.  Stop resisting that which you try to control but ultimately can’t and never will control.

Center for Human Potential–calling the “right” healing partners

Posted by Angie on December 22, 2009
Greetings,
My friends, Lisa Rose, Paige Russell, Eric Shay and I share a common vision. We realize the extent of suffering on this planet. We choose to raise the collective consciousness and inspire peace and joy within others, starting with one individual at a time. We choose to create a Center for Human Potential (CHP), although that is not the official name just yet. It’s a good start.
This blog is the next step in the evolution of the CHP. We are asking Divinity to bring us the right individuals who want to be part of this amazing journey. Perhaps you currently rent space and want to make a change. Perhaps you want to be part of a group energy that is beyond words. Perhaps you want marketing support for your business and to grow your business. Whatever your needs, keep CHP in mind. We are simply planting some seeds. If our words speak to your heart and this vision resonates with you, please call me, Angie Monko, 314-422-6520, to discuss further.

The CHP would offer programs, products and services with the goal of addressing the entire individual’s needs, physical, mental, emotional and spiritual. People on this planet are in pain. We have dis-ease in our bodies. When you suffer, I suffer. We are all connected.

When we live our daily existence in a world of anxiety and stress, chaos and overwhelm, and we’re living from the “memories” of fear, pain and doubt, we affect the energy of those around us. We are like walking magnets, big balls of pulsating negative energy, attracting more of that which we think about (lack, poor relationships, ill health, etc.) when we are disconnected from others, when we live in self-pity.

It doesn’t have to be this way. We choose how we exist. As Eric Shay said, so many people are trying to “keep up with the Jones’s,” not realizing that we can’t keep up with ourselves. The “Jones” reside within our own mind, body and spirit. There really is no competition. We simply compete with our self constantly. A common belief that runs deep is that we are not enough.

So when we think we are not enough, we are living from “memories.” Joe Vitale wrote a book called Zero Limits after studying with Dr. Ihaleakala Hew Len and the Hawaiian system for wealth, health and peace called Self I-Dentity through Ho’oponopono. He made this comment after taking a workshop with Dr. Hew Len, “One of the key points from this weekend workshop is that you are acting from either memory or inspiration. Memory is thinking; inspiration is allowing. Most of us by far are living out of memories. We’re unconscious to them because we’re basically unconscious, period.”

Again, taken from Zero Limits, “Dr. Hew Len is a psychologist who healed an entire mental hospital full of the criminally insane, but he never saw a single patient.” How could he do this? He used the powerful energy of love and began to clean himself of whatever could be wrong within himself that caused the situation in these patients. The answers all lie within us, not in some external circumstance.

We realize that we are all suffering and in pain together. We choose to do something proactively to change this direction. The planet is calling out to be healed. When we have dis-ease in our body, it goes beyond a physical explanation.

Louise Hay explains in You Can Heal Your Life, “I believe we create every so-called illness in our body. The body, like everything else in life, is a mirror of our inner thoughts and beliefs. The body is always talking to us, if we will only take the time to listen. Every cell within your body responds to every single thought you think and every word you speak. Continuous modes of thinking and speaking produce body behaviors and postures and ‘eases’ or dis-eases. The person who has a permanently scowling face did not produce that by having joyous, loving thoughts. Older people’s faces and bodies show so clearly a life-time of thinking patterns. How will you look when you are elderly?”

So we have pain and dis-ease. We feel we are not enough. We have an emptiness deep inside because we feel we have no purpose or direction. We feel stuck and unhappy. The CHP will address these core issues. Instead of putting a band-aid on a symptom, the CHP will offer programs for people to evolve their soul, starting from the inside out.

It starts with the physical body. We start here because if we don’t feel well, we don’t feel like taking action or moving our bodies and lives forward. We don’t feel like looking inside for emotional and spiritual causes. We will have staff to help you get your body moving in an exercise program that is right for you. We will help you decide on a healthy eating plan, NOT a diet. There is no right or wrong way to eat for everyone. The key is to live life fully and in the moment and not feel guilty about the food. Food takes on a life of its own when we assign guilt and shame to it.

At the same time, it makes sense to do what makes your body feel good, like eat plenty of fruits and vegetables and eat as much organic as possible. Drink high quality alkaline water. These are simply suggestions. Ultimately, we must figure out what works for us and gives us results. No one individual can be put into a system of eating and be guaranteed results. What works for 90% of the populace may not work for us. This can be very frustrating! So CHP will help design a program specifically to meet our body’s physical needs that WILL bring us results. It may take some trial and error and investigative work, and ultimately we will achieve what our body wants if we will listen to it and respond. Louise Hay: “I listen with love to my body’s messages.”

We next must address what is going on mentally. Our brain is our powerhouse. It stores all of our memories. We think from our brain. We have self-will. Once we begin to take care of our physical body, our mental body will feel better. We will have more clarity to make choices in our lives, even if those choices may feel uncertain. Life moves forward when we are willing to take risks and let go of the need for perfection. We have a certified hypnotherapist to help.

As we begin to change physically and mentally, certain aspects of ourselves will most likely begin to sabotage our efforts because they feel threatened. Our ego self is terrified of being annihilated, of being replaced. Our ego doesn’t want to change. It feels just fine in its comfort zone of the status quo, EVEN IF the current situation is very painful. We were taught belief systems from our parents, teachers, siblings, society, etc. that were are living by, even if they are un-healthy.

We must become willing to examine these belief systems. We must become willing to change our thoughts from the inside out. How can we do this when emotions are telling us we are not good enough and that we don’t deserve success in any area of our life? Enter in the next phase of the program.

CHP will have experienced emotional freedom technique (EFT) / meridian tapping practitioners. Lisa Rose and I both have years of practical experience in helping others and our selves find core blocks to moving forward. If we hadn’t applied meridian tapping to our own issues, we wouldn’t even be contemplating the idea of the CHP. The idea of EFT is that all negative emotions are created by a disruption in our body’s energy system.

We have all allowed emotions to run our lives. It feels like we are out of control. Most of the time we probably don’t know why we keep responding to life’s difficulties with the same repeated patterns. Even once we become aware of our belief systems, we still keep doing the same things that bring us pain. Why is this? We have paradigms, belief systems, accumulated from childhood, that are subconscious and running the show, so to speak.

By using meridian tapping, we can gain permission from our subconscious minds to help heal and integrate all of us. Once we get approval and re-assure our ego that we don’t want to get rid of this “wounded” part of us, that we simply want to heal and integrate it, life becomes easier. We’re no longer swimming upstream. As Lisa says, we can throw away the oars. Life can now begin to flow. We start getting results that feel good when our conscious mind is aligned with the subconscious.

Meridian tapping can create cognitive shifts in our belief systems which makes it so powerful. Basically, we can use it to become willing to change.

At this time in program, the individual is feeling good physically, mentally and emotionally. They are learning how to love, accept and forgive themselves. This is so vital! Even though there will always be bumps in the road, we teach the philosophy that, since all answers lie within us, we are responsible for our own healing, and we can therefore handle whatever life sends us.

We teach individuals to be independent of our services. Sure, we want them to keep coming back to be part of the fantastic group energy, participate in exercise classes for the heart, mind and soul, as part of a daily self-care program. However, we don’t want them to be dependent on CHP for answers to their life’s problems once they have the proper tools to make choices. I hope this distinction is clear.

A major aspect of the program is our spiritual life. When we begin to feel aligned physically, mentally and emotionally, we may be more willing to examine our spiritual life. Now I could just as easily put the spiritual aspect of the program first because it is THAT important. Some people are turned off by the term spirituality or God. That’s okay. Truly it is.

It is important to just be open-minded. When we speak of surrendering to a Higher Source or Energy or God, it doesn’t mean letting go into an abyss of chaos, where some unknown Source will now have its way with us and send us all sorts of wily and painful lessons. We are actually surrendering to our soul’s next stage of development and enfoldment, as Michael Beckwith explains. We are surrendering to our own highest good. This may make the transition easier.

We have to be willing to start where we are. We can “act as if” we believe in a Higher Source; whether we really do is unimportant. I could write an entire book on the need for meditation and prayer and how this has changed my life for the better. Suffice it to say that we can expedite our healing if we will begin to meditate daily, even if it’s for one or two minutes. That is how I started, and now I do it for an hour daily. It has made ALL of the difference as miracles continue to occur in my life.

We can create a Higher Source of our own, no matter what it is, create one that works for us and is a loving, accepting entity, One who is always there for us. We can think of it like creating the perfect parents. Once we’ve done this, we can ask this Source for help in accessing our highest wisdom on a daily basis. CHP will have staff to help one along their spiritual path.

There is no THEM. There is, and always has been, just US. We are a collective Spirit. Our separation is not of a physical nature but created and maintained in our mind. In these troubled times, We need to recognize our Oneness. Our advancement is limited by the weak in Spirit. Our pace is set as a Whole and we can not proceed unless We all move as One. True, we are all uniquely different. This is by design. For like a puzzle, we are not complete until all of the pieces are in place and we can step back and see the Wholeness of the creation and take wonder in its beauty.

In addition to the program I just described above, we envision having various experts on staff, massage therapist(s), hypnotherapist(s), chiropractor(s), acupuncturist(s), medium(s), etc., to further us in our self-care and healing. Further, we will have a retail shop that offers products in alignment with our soul’s highest good. We will offer an EFT weight release DVD, meditation CDs, Organic Makeover DVD and workbooks, organic granola, music CDs, hand-crafted scarves/clothing, high alkaline/oxygen water, Vita-Mix blenders, cacao nibs, goji berries and other super foods, our own line of natural skin care products, gift certificates, etc. We envision an organic deli so that we can enjoy a delicious, healthy lunch after working out.

We hope we have inspired you to learn more. The CHP is happening. It is left up to Divine timing. We are SO excited to impact this planet’s evolution and consciousness. It can be a “brave new world,” if we will only allow it. Are you ready and up for the opportunity? We are! Talk to you soon.

Love, Peace & Blessings,

Angie Monko, Lisa Rose, Paige Russell, Eric Shay

 
 
 

 

Are you addicted to stress and stress-eating?

Posted by Angie on December 12, 2009

I think that my automatic response to a big to-do list is stress.  Even though I’ve made peace a high priority, I sometimes get frustrated at how easily I slip into the old familiar habit of feeling overwhelmed.  I can be of no use to anyone at this point.  Further the feeling that I am being cornered or put into a pressure cooker does nothing to induce my creative juices.   I want to blame my busy schedule and feel justified that I don’t feel at ease with my world.  Even the thought of giving up stress stresses me out.  Somehow my ego, which tries feverishly to protect the status quo, has me convinced that I’m a victim and always will be.  Who am I to break out of this box of mediocrity? 

When the uncomfortable feelings get to be too much, I want to turn to food for comfort.  Food is a great comforter after all.  The problem is that if I abuse food and assign all sorts of guilty associations to it, my body and mind and spirit will rebel.  I may suffer ill health, relationship difficulties, scarcity, etc. 

The good news is that as I persist in believing in myself, more on some days than others, the loud critical voice gets quieter. This makes room for my wiser Self to speak more clearly.  I can also use emotional freedom technique or tapping to aid in the transition of inner change.  I’ve been afraid of change, just like you.  I try to think of change as a means of releasing something that already exists in me.  There is a part of me that wants to express myself through my writing.   If I keep avoiding my feelings by stuffing them down with food,  I will never fully express all of who I am. 

So how do I change the stress pattern?  For starters, I can become aware of it and then decide to respond in a new way.  I can tap on my karate chop point and say, “Even though I typically respond to a big to-do list with overwhelm and stress, I now choose to be willing to release this pattern and respond with love and peace instead.” 

There may be trauma stuck in the body, and if so, I can tap on those specific events that caused the trauma to clear it out.  It is always my choice on how I respond to life’s circumstances.  To learn more about tapping, visit my website at www.harmonyharbor.com.  Here’s to your harmony!

Peace & Blessings,

Angie Monko

314-422-6520

Use Emotional Freedom Tecnique to Reclaim Your Life

Posted by Angie on December 5, 2009

I learned about emotional freedom technique (EFT) or tapping almost 3 years ago.  I fell in love with it because I knew it was my ticket to freedom.  I knew there was trauma trapped in my body from childhood.  I wanted to release these wounds and allow a more natural expression of myself to emerge.  I wanted to be me without fear of someone recriminating me.  I wanted to allow myself to flower into what I give various names:  My Inner Diva, My Goddess, My God Within, My Empowered Self, The Divine Self, The Soul.  My Soul has a daily dialogue with my victim self, sometimes it is a gentle and nurturing conversation, sometimes it’s a struggle, and sometimes it’s a downright battle.

I use tapping on energy meridians to build a bridge between these two parts of me, my Divine Self and my victim self.  I realize that it doesn’t do me any good to continue battling it out between my lower and higher consciousness.  It is simply a waste of energy and time.  I may find myself repeating the same behavior patterns because I am afraid to change and grow and be open and willing.  This equates to frustration.  I find it much more peaceful and inviting to accept all of me, and I can facilitate this change with tapping.

When I feel angry or frustrated, I can tap on the emotions AND decide to allow the feelings to course through my body.  I can decide to use the emotion as a vehicle to peace.  Let me give you an example.  I was angry yesterday because of how someone treated me when I asked her to ship something to me, that she no longer needed.  I knew that I had been calm and professional with her, and that by merely stating the facts of what had happened, she became angry.  She said I was being negative and would not ship the item.  I felt like her ego was tremendously big and she was trying to punish me for not pursuing the actions she had advised.

Then I realized I was blaming her for my anger and how she treated me.  It wasn’t the obvious blaming someone for where I’m at in life, like an adulterous spouse, or cruel parents or such.  Normally I take responsibility for my life.  But when this overall stranger treated me in a disrespectful way, I wanted to jump through the phone and slap her.  I wanted to pinpoint every little detail of what she had done to prove she was an egomaniacal hypocrite (which I could have easily done based on her actions). 

And then what?  Would my expending more energy on this and proving her wrong have brought me any closer to peace?  No.  I would have continued to give her my power and sank further into the depths of my victimhood.  I was emotional about it.  And so on the way to the post office, I was listening to a Michael Beckwith CD, and he was talking about victim consciousness.  He said to use the emotion to declare to the Universe that I will no longer sacrifice my well-being.  I will no longer be a victim!  I can reclaim my power through forgiving MYSELF.  That’s right.  Not forgiving her.  Forgiving myself. 

And so I decided to forgive this individual, and in so doing, forgive myself.  Every morning I tap on my emotions and try to make peace with where I’m at.  The more I become aware of my victim self, the more compassion I have for her, and the more my soul cries out for reconciliation between my self and my Self, my victim and my Soul.  As I learn to forgive myself for that part of me that resented this person and take responsibility for my belief systems (BS–ha, ha), I learn to love, accept and approve of myself exactly where I am.  No outside circumstance or person determines my happiness or peace.  This is empowering!  The real courage (and my job/action) lies in practicing this principle of humility every single moment of every single day.

If you want to learn more about tapping and forgiving yourself, visit www.harmonyharbor.com and feel free to comment on my blog.

Peace & Blessings,

Angie Monko, EFT Coach