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Peace,

Angie Monko, 314-422-6520

Hello Friends,

Last week I asked you how you could end your inner battle, and I began to give you an example of how my stepdaughter’s Mom died in 2005.  Chelsea resented living with us because she had been suddenly uprooted from her normal surroundings, and it was quite an adjustment for us too because we had been used to plenty of time for ourselves.  Then, suddenly, Chelsea was living with us every day.   I was angry and felt like we bent over backwards to help her cope, but she just couldn’t accept the sudden changes in her life (understandably so).

Chelsea brought out my harsh critic within.  I resented her for turning my world upside down, and she also triggered abundance issues I had because of the thousands we were forced to spend on legal fees.  I realized that I blamed my life’s problems on her, at least subconsciously.  I felt critical of Chelsea quite often because her selfish, uncooperative ways triggered me.  I was angry at Chelsea half of the time, and I kept a lot of my feelings hidden because I was ashamed of them.  She had just lost her Mother, for crying out loud!

When I decided to heal myself with the tapping, I realized Chelsea brought out my immature, selfish self.  I became aware that I had done the best I could, and Chelsea was just a child doing the best she could.  She was like a barometer for me.

When I started to feel critical of her, I’d ask myself “OK, what is bothering you?”  Why are you feeling critical of yourself?  I was critical of her when I was critical of myself.  I tapped on these issues and made a choice to understand and accept this part of me.  I didn’t condemn this part of me.  I made peace with myself and forgave myself for being human.

I hired my Higher Power as my boss and made a commitment to follow my intuition and inner wisdom.  My relationship with Chelsea is now solid and healthy.  We still butt heads at times, and it’s certainly not perfect.  I continue to forgive and accept myself daily so that I can minimize damage to myself and her.  I hope this example helps you to understand your inner battle a little more.  You can heal yourself too!

Have a blessed day!

Hugs from your coach,

Angie Monko

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Dear Friends,

I learned about this technique a long time ago and was reminded of it again in February.  The idea is to use your dominant hand and write out a question and write the answer with the non-dominant hand.  This stimulates the right side of the brain, our creativity, our intuitive faculties.  So I’ve been doing this a little over a month.

It is amazing what comes out of this little inner dialogue with ourselves.  It’s like I have my own personal consultant, whom I can completely trust, at least as much as I trust myself.  And that is what is really nice!  This technique helps to to trust myself and my decision-making ability.  After all, this wisdom is coming from ME, not anyone else.  If the truth be known, the wisdom is coming from my connection to Source, to All That Is. 

This is very comforting to know that I can tap into my Higher Self and receive this knowing.  Rebecca Marina said that if I do this practice daily that after about 6 weeks, I will develop my psychic abilities, my ability to identify patterns and trends in myself and others.  I’ve been doing it almost 5 weeks, and I have noticed improved intuition and the ability to hear that quiet voice that whispers my next best course of action.

I hope you will try this!  We can all use a little more faith in ourselves, don’t ya think?

Love & JOY to you,

Angie Monko, 314-422-6520

PS:  If you’re really serious about doing something different about your weight and body image issues, see the attached qualifying form. http://www.harmonyharbor.com/qual.html

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Honestly, I don’t feel like they are.  I don’t like big swings of emotion, whether positive or negative.  I like to be even-keeled and stable and steady, easy does it.  I don’t like it when people get loud or obnoxious.  I think this is why I was so excited when I found Emotional Freedom Technique.  Even the name sounds wonderful.

As I get older, I am realizing more and more how important it is to be able to maturely discuss my feelings.  It feels good to own them and acknowledge them so I can move forward.  I’ve frequently heard the saying, “Feel your feelings.” If I can’t get honest with myself, then I won’t be able to be honest with others.

I see how much I’ve repressed my feelings in my life.  They just didn’t feel safe to me.   I’ve also carried about 10-15 pounds excess weight for my entire life.  If you look up the symptom of “overweight” in Louise Hay’s famous List in her book, You Can Heal Your Life, it says the probable emotional cause is “Fear, need for protection.  Running away from feelings.  Insecurity, self-rejection.   Seeking fulfillment.”

I have run away from my feelings, and that includes joy.  It is especially easy to ignore my feelings if I get into food or use it as an elixir to pain.  This was my common way to deal with life up until the last eight years, when I discovered a twelve step program for food addictions.

I see this same pattern in my daughter who is 13 years old.  She is a big-time represser, and she turns to food (especially gummy bears) for comfort.  So if you ever ask someone who traditionally hides their emotions, “Is everything alright,” and they answer, “Yes, I’m fine.”  Just remember that FINE is an acronym for Fudged Up, Irrational, Neurotic and Evasive, and perhaps dig a little deeper!

With much love & respect,

Angie Monko, 314-422-6520

PS:  If you’re really serious about doing something different about your weight and body image issues, see the attached qualifying form. http://www.harmonyharbor.com/qual.html

PSS:  Do you have friends and family that are also interested in creating their own destinies of joy and freedom?  Send them to www.harmonyharbor.com/squeeze.html

Dear Friends,

I began reading A Course in Miracles just about a month or so ago.  I am really loving it!  I  purchased it about a year ago and started reading it, but at the time, it seemed too complicated.  I had been reading a chapter daily from the Bible.  This is how I begin to initiate change.  Sometimes it feels daunting to make the time to read a whole book, like the Bible or ACIM, which is VERY long.  So I just read a little bit each day.  This seems to work, and at least I’m making progress.

So I put down the Bible and began reading ACIM instead, which is a book scribed by Helen Schucman, a channel for Jesus.  What I’m about to write now is probably pretty controversial but I want to write what is in my heart, and I can’t be afraid of what you think of me. 

I grew up as a Christian in the Methodist Church.  It was a very small church in a small town.  I went to Sunday school regularly but then stopped attending as a teenager since my immediate family didn’t go.  When I was about 18 years old, I began going to a Lutheran church where my boyfriend’s (husband-to-be) parents went.  I took communion classes and was officially baptized at this church. It was steeped in tradition and the songs were a little boring, but I did find it comforting.  I got involved with administrative committees and felt accepted there.

Then I married my first husband in 1992, after dating 7 years.   He was against organized religion and complained about my involvement in the church.  He accused me of being naïve with a child dependence on God.  My faith was fragile back then.  I actually wrote a letter to the church, revoking my membership and explaining that I’d no longer be going.  To this day, I’m surprised at myself for doing this and how much I relinquished my power to my husband.

About five years later, I began to study other religions, like Bhuddism, and I felt I was changing inside.  I wanted to expand my world.  I didn’t want anyone holding me back, trying to tell me what to believe or think or do.  In 2008, nearly 16 years later, I decided to go back to church.  This time I was referred to a place about 5 minutes from my home that I didn’t even know existed, the Soul Esteem Center (SEC), a non-denominational, metaphysical community of like-minded folks.  I fell in love with the SEC and its message of love and openness.  I didn’t feel any judgment that I would go to hell if I didn’t accept Jesus as the only way to Heaven. 

I decided to read the Bible over a year ago to decide for myself what I thought.  My spiritual director, who I began working with months after I’d started reading it, advised that I skip to the New Testament.  Good advice.  Even then, parts of it just confused me, especially about the Second Coming and Judgment Day and all of that.  I too easily interpreted passages as breeding separatism and judgment. 

I’ve never been able to come to peace with the idea that Jesus was the only way to Heaven; it seemed exclusionary and unfair.  What about all of the people who grew up, being taught different religions and beliefs?  They are going to be damned forever to hell?  This just didn’t make sense to me.  So that is when I received inner guidance to read ACIM instead.

This has made all of the difference.  I was now ready to read ACIM.  In fact, I can hardly put it down after reading a couple of pages each morning (remember these are words directly spoken to Helen from Jesus).  I realize that Christ is not just referring to Jesus. 

Christ is, according to the ACIM, “The extension of God; God’s one Son and one creation; the single Self that is shared by all minds, all of whom are equal members of the Sonship.  Does not refer to Jesus, who is simply one of these members, one who has fully awakened to our shared Identity as Christ.”

The Son of God is defined as such: The true Identity of each person and every living thing. The one Son of God is composed of an infinite number of parts or Sons.  Each one of these Sons is both part of the whole and all of the whole….This term does not refer exclusively to Jesus, who is merely one of the Sons, one who has awakened.

These ideas really helped me to see that we are all one, and that we have been creating this idea of separatism.  This book, ACIM, has so much wisdom.  I’m not knocking the Bible or its inherent wisdom.  I’m simply saying that ACIM is helping me to understand the metaphor/symbols of the Bible.  I’m resolving an inner conflict I’ve had for a long time. You might want to check it out!  There is so much more….. 

Peace & Blessings,

Angie Monko, 314-422-6520

PS:  If you’re really serious about doing something different about your weight and body image issues, see the attached qualifying form. http://www.harmonyharbor.com/qual.html

PSS:  Do you have friends and family that are also interested in creating their own destinies of joy and freedom?  Send them to www.harmonyharbor.com/squeeze.html

Dear Friends,

How exactly can you go about ending the inner battle inside of you?  I think a personal example may help you. 

On April 3, 2005, my step daughter’s Mom died in a tragic house fire.  Luckily, Chelsea (now 15) was with me and my husband (Steve) that weekend.  We had been getting Chelsea regularly since she was a toddler and were very close to her. 

However, she spent the majority of her life with her Mom’s family and wanted to live with her maternal Grandma, instead of changing schools and moving about 1.5 hours away from her family and friends.  So she was very resistant to living with us.  Our intuition told us to get Chelsea ASAP based on comments her Grandma had made.  It was obvious she expected her to live with her.  So on April 15 when Steve picked up Chelsea for his regular weekend visit, he didn’t return her (legal advice).

The grandparents sued us for custody.  The case was dismissed in May 2006, over a year later.  We agreed to let them visit Chelsea one weekend per month and get time in the summer, holidays, etc.  Things had actually settled down for Chelsea the year after her Mom’s death.  It was when she started visiting her Mom’s family again in June 2006 that real issues started to bubble up.  She had begun to accept and like her new life, her school, but then she became confused and started to say she wanted to live with her Grandma again.  We knew they talked badly about us and were constantly asking her if she still wanted to live with them.

The whole situation was hard on me because prior to this, Steve and I had a pretty nice situation.  We got our kids every other weekend and spent real quality time with them.  To be Continued.

Peace & Blessings,

Angie Monko, 314-422-6520

PS:  If you’re really serious about doing something different about your weight and body image issues, see the attached qualifying form. http://www.harmonyharbor.com/qual.html

PSS:  Do you have friends and family that are also interested in creating their own destinies of joy and freedom?  Send them to www.harmonyharbor.com/squeeze.html.

Dear Friends,

I just wrote an article about not having enough joy in my life (See What do you detest/resent in others?); you might want to read that before this one, since they are related.  I tend to be a type A personality and have a strong need for perfection.  When I was 13 years old, I learned that if I produced (I was challenged to get all A’s in 8th grade–no A-s), I received approval from my Dad.  So produce I did. 

The problem is that I never seem to produce enough to feel self-love and self-acceptance, although this is changing within me now.  I do feel tired at times, and I get grouchy with the kids and my husband, and I don’t make enough time for them.  I admit that I’m doing my very best, and I need to lighten up on myself. 

I  watched this really good movie, The Family Stone, the other night.  Sarah Jessica Parker played the girlfriend to a man, who was part of a very large family.  She was going to meet his family during Christmas time.  Before they met her, they judged her as stuffy and uptight and inappropriate for their son/brother.  After a challenging evening, she ended up leaving their home and going out with her boyfriend’s brother, played by Luke Wilson.  They went to a bar, and he tried to get her to loosen up. 

She was in tears, saying that she was trying so hard to please his family (and she was a good person, just anxious to seek approval), and all she could do was mess up and make things worse.  Do you ever feel this way?  Luke Wilson replied in a loving, pleading way, “You’re trying too hard.  Don’t try so hard.” 

I could really relate.  I’ve always tried so hard, starting when I was a young teenager.  I saw a chiropractor/accupunturist for a free consultation earlier the same day.  I don’t have any health issues, but I received the gift and figured it couldn’t hurt to get a free health consultation.  She said she’d never met anyone who did so much, as far as a daily routine of self-care, including journaling, working out, meditating, yoga rites, reading, walking stairs, etc. 

I described my healthy food plan and told her I’d been exercising since I was 13 years old, 4 days a week, almost without exception.  I told her how I tapped for emotional health, took a variety of vitamin supplements and that I meditate 50 minutes daily for spiritual growth, and on and on with what I DO.   She said even though it all sounded great and I looked much younger than 40 years old, she thought I almost had this desperation in my eyes.

I knew immediately what she meant.  I do feel desperate at times.  What would happen if I stopped doing all that I do for self-care?  I guess you could say I’m very attached to doing it.  There is that perfectionism showing up again and the need to feel approval and good enough.   The whole day was about teaching me how to relax and NOT try so hard.  I think the Universe is sending me a message.  I need to stop trying so hard, relax and allow myself to receive joy.

Peace & Blessings,

Angie Monko, 314-422-6520

Dear Friends,

What do you detest and/or resent in others?  What gets under your skin and just really annoys or frustrates you?  Personally, I dislike it when others tell me they will do something and then they don’t.  Almost immediately, I get on my high horse and condemn and judge them for being either lazy or irresponsible or both.  

I also tend to be pretty critical when things don’t turn out exactly as I like them, putting a kink in my perfectly-laid-out plans.  I can be especially critical if my closest loved ones don’t follow through or they make a mistake.  For example, if my kids prepare a recipe for dinner and they don’t follow my instructions and make a mistake, I have a hard time letting it go without first saying a little snide remark, “Well, did you remember me telling you that?”

At least I catch myself doing this much more quickly and correct my behavior.  You’ve probably heard it said that whatever we don’t like in someone else is probably a trait that we have (even if on rare occasions we display it) not accepted within ourselves.  I’ll take it a step further and reinforce what is taught in A Course in Miracles.  Whenever we participate in any behavior towards ourselves or others, whether it’s negative or positive, we strengthen it within ourselves.

This was pretty scary from my viewpoint of being critical and complainy at times.  I certainly don’t want to stengthen this trait, but that’s exactly what I was doing.  I want others to know me as kind and loving and giving, INCLUDING my family. 

I’m humbled to tell you that my immediate family describes me this way, “My Mom/Wife is one of the most giving people to others that we know, and we love and appreciate her very much.  She’s always helping others, and she’s there for us when we really need her.  She’s very, very busy, and we don’t know how she juggles so much.  She is really good at helping us with our problems and pointing us in the right direction.  She is a health fanatic, always concerned about what we eat and what she eats.  She is very disciplined and productive.   Even though she may get good report cards from God, she really hasn’t learned how to relax and enjoy life.  She doesn’t know how to play.  We know she loves us, but she doesn’t always have much time for us.  We wish she’d be more light and happy and play with us more.  Sometimes her priorities seem mixed up, and she seems tired and grouchy.  We miss her!”

So I had to get real honest with myself.  How much joy do I have in my life?  I’d say I’m pretty serious and intense.  I’m not real good at joy.  I do enjoy certain things in my life, like making and having dinner with my family, watching a good movie from start to finish, reading, writing, dancing, getting a monthly massage, being outdoors on a beautiful day, the fall time and sitting around a warm campfire, the seasons, decorating my home with seasonal crafts, watching the beautiful lights on a Christmas tree, sipping hot chocolate on a cold winter’s day, lovingly carressing my dog and looking in his eyes, really bonding with my children during our annual vacations and throughout the year, going on trips with just my husband in the spring and fall and enjoying a nice glass of wine and really connecting, the feeling I get after sweating a ton and working my butt off after a bikram yoga class.  I could go on and on. 

After making this list, I realize I do have a lot of joy in my life overall, but it’s not my daily theme.  I think a good gauge of how successful we are is how much joy do we have in our daily lives?  Now that I’m aware that I want more joy in my life, I can take action steps to make that happen.  What is your joy barometer, and how can you improve it?  And remember.  Be careful what you criticize in others.  You are strengthening that trait in yourself.  Ouch!

Peace & Blessings,

Angie Monko, 314-422-6520

Hello Friends,

I transcribed the following from the CD called The Secret to Self-Love by Brad Yates.  He was a participant in the 2009 World Tapping Summit.  I found this particular tapping so useful that I actually listened to it and wrote it down so that I wouldn’t have to keep referring back to the CD part.  As you’veheard me say many, many times, our answers lie within us.  When we remove our blocks of fear and shame and other ego traits, we are clear about our true Selves.  This tapping will help you with just that, coming into alignment with our Souls and Higher Selves.  It’s all about Self-Love.

I understand it’s not easy to love our selves with a lower case s because it’s our ego’s natural inclination to attack and criticize and berate.  So we make a decision to stretch and expand our ears a bit and listen for our Soul’s messages.  Eventually we can begin to quiet the ego’s voice.  Make no mistake–this takes daily practice and a sincere desire to know our God Selves.  Use the following tapping to get to know your Self and feel joy that you’ve felt before.

Say this in the morning to start your day right (for tapping mechanics, see www.harmonyharbor.com or contact me at number below).

Karate chop or sore spot:  I choose to love myself today. I choose to love and forgive myself.  I choose to love and accept myself.  I choose to really love myself today. I choose to treat myself with self love and self care.  I treat myself with self respect.  I choose to acknowledge myself as loving and deserving of self respect.  And I deeply and completely love and forgive and accept myself and anyone else who shows up in my life today. 

Tap: I choose to love myself today.  I choose to love myself today.  I choose to know I deserve that.  Maybe I have some reason why I’m not buying this.  I may doubt how lovable I am. I may doubt how deserving I am of love and respect.  And I choose to clear those doubts, releasing them at a cellular level.  They are misunderstandings.  I choose to know that.  And besides which, they don’t do anyone any good.  No one will benefit from any lack of self love, and I won’t benefit from it.  So why persist in it?  Releasing this lack of self love.  Allowing myself to love myself.  Allowing myself to know it’s okay to love myself.  Allowing myself to know it’s right to love myself.  That I honor the Creator by loving the Creator’s work.  I am worthy and deserving of love and respect.  And maybe there are some times when I make things tough on myself.  And that IS love.  Maybe I believe that I’m helping myself or protecting myself from something I should not have.  And I choose to release ideas that cause fear, that block me from things that I could otherwise really enjoy.  Releasing the fears.  I choose to know that I’m smart enough to know what’s really good for me.  I have a lot of old ideas about things that are dangerous, about things that are wrong, and some of these are unfounded.  And they’re based on myths and I’m releasing those.  So I can face the day with an open mind and open eyes and open arms to allow the best that’s possible.  And what could be more loving for myself?  The more I really love myself, the more I’m going to attract those things that are really good for me.  As I really love myself, I naturally will NOT attract those things that are harmful for me.  The more I love myself, the more good naturally comes to me.  And that benefits others too.  It’s a win/win situation.  So I’m loving myself today.  And so it is!

Say this before bed or after work:

Karate chop:  I choose to feel love for myself.  I choose to love and accept myself.  I choose to feel love for myself.  I choose to love and accept myself.  I choose to feel love for myself and clear out the things I’ve been carrying with me, especially the things that have been bothering me.  Maybe things have happened today either to me or things I’ve done that I’m not feeling too good about, and I choose to clear that away so I can feel love for myself and I get a good night’s sleep which is a wonderful act of self-love.  So I choose to love myself and deeply and completely love and forgive and accept myself and anyone else who contributes to this. 

Tap:  I choose to love myself.  I choose to love myself.  And maybe that means forgiving myself for how I’ve been today.  Maybe I’ve done things or thought things or said things that I don’t feel too good about.  And how can I forgive myself?  And why should I forgive myself?  If I’ve done something wrong, shouldn’t I feel badly about it?  Wouldn’t that make me a better person?  I choose to release that idea.  If there are amends I need to make, things I need to do, to make things right, I’m going to do so because that’s an act of self-love as well as love towards another.  But I can’t suffer enough right now to do anyone any good.  So I choose to love myself.  Releasing the blocks to that.  Releasing any sadness.  Releasing any anger.  Allowing myself to forgive myself.  Because it’s good for me and it’s good for the world at large.  And maybe I’ve allowed things into my life today that I’m regretting.  Maybe things have happened to me.  People have done things or said things to me that I don’t feel too good about, and I have to ask myself.  What good is it going to do me to hold onto this now?  I’m letting it go.  I choose to love myself that much.  I chose to love myself enough to be at peace now.  To give myself peace of mind.  Relaxing.  Giving myself peace.  Loving myself because I deserve that in body, mind and spirit.  And so it is!

Enjoy!  This is powerful stuff! Sweet dreams…

Peace & Love,

Angie Monko, 314-422-6520

Hello Friends,

Is there a part of yourself that you don’t accept?  Do you have constant inner turmoil and think you aren’t good enough? Maybe you have an inner child who is very terrified of saying “No” to others because she wants to please others and be likable and be accepted.  Even if it means betraying herself.

Maybe you have a 13-year-old boy inside of you who got angry and rebelled in order to protect you somehow.  His anger allowed you to cope with the instability around you.  Maybe you can’t stand the part of you who gives away your power to others, who listens and believes the negative story that others tell you.  You may even listen to the most negative people and allow them to squash your dreams.

I have learned that the best way to lessen or stop altogether the negative internal dialogue is to ACCEPT that part of ourselves we most resist.  So stop resisting….  We all have the capacity for good and evil within us.  It’s like a continuum.  Without one, we cannot have the other.

You can use the tapping to help gain permission from that part of you that is resistant to healing.  You may resist because you’d rather have your current pain or situation (which is comfortable and familiar) than to leap into unknown territory.

You will achieve your visions (weight loss, strong relationships, etc.) much more rapidly if you will recognize your inner battle within and make peace with those parts of you that you find repulsive.  To be Continued.

Have a blessed day!

Angie Monko

PS:  If you’re really serious about doing something different about your weight and body image issues, see the attached qualifying form. http://www.harmonyharbor.com/qual.html

PSS:  Do you have friends and family that are also interested in creating their own destinies of joy and freedom?  Send them to www.harmonyharbor.com/squeeze.html.