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Dear Friends,

I next met my eleven-year-old self in my hypnotherapy session.  She taught me a belief in scarcity and rejection.  At this age, I began to subconsciously feel rejected.  My Mom and Dad divorced, and although I welcomed the absence of tension and parental conflict, I felt somehow flawed and rejected. Why would Dad leave us and not maintain regular contact?  I didn’t like him but I did need his love. 

I began to feel I wasn’t enough because my own Dad didn’t love or want me.  This feeling of being unworthy led me to believe I had to perform or DO things to prove myself worthy.  If I’m not enough at the core, then I won’t have enough time to get done all of the activities needed to get done to allow myself to feel I’d earned the reward of relaxing and feeling good about myself.

If I can never do enough to feel this worthiness, then I’d never be able to earn enough money to feel secure.  I wouldn’t be capable of allowing money to come easily to me because I must work hard for it.  “Nothing good comes easy” and “You must pay your dues” come to mind.

These are strong, ingrained beliefs for me.  Are they true?  My eleven-year-old says they are.  I thanked her for teaching me to be a motivated action taker with a strong desire to succeed.  I also explained that working excessively to reach a goal or to feel worthy is a fruitless endeavor.  I told her to work to have fun–she’s already worthy!

When money comes easily because I love what I do, then there IS enough of it.  I AM abundant now!  I will need to continue to convince her of this because she’s not totally buying it.  I will keep persisting because I know that when I completely believe that I am abundant and accepted, life will become a breeze for me. The struggle will be over, and the anxiety will melt away.

The key here is to acknowledge what my part did for me (gave me motivation, desire, success and results) and also acknowledge how she is hurting me in the present moment (potential burnout, lack of direction, feelings of inadequacy and rejection).  I honor all of these aspects of her and forgive her and thank her and really listen to her with respect.  Lastly, I let it all go and surrender it to my Higher Self.

Peace & Blessings,

Angie Monko, 314-422-6520

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Dear Friends,

I had a wonderful hypnotherapy session with Dawn Ferguson, in which I met four different parts of my younger self.  The first part that showed up for me was my six-year-old self.  I could see her, so vulnerable, curly hair and missing teeth.  At this age, much of my fear and anxiety was born, which resulted in psoriasis on my scalp and biting my lips.   I have this ever-present, low-grade anxiety.

She was very upset because her whole world had been turned upside down with the sudden death of her sixteen-year-old Aunt, her buddy.  Elaine was the 4th child and only girl of her paternal Grandma, her daytime caretaker.  Elaine developed a large, cancerous tumor in her chest and passed within two weeks of diagnosis.  Elaine was born on 9/23, the same day as Angie, but ten years earlier.

About a month before her death, Angie was sitting in the car with her Aunt and her Aunt’s boyfriend.  Elaine asked young Angie to leave so she could be alone with Jim, and Angie got very upset and said, “I hate you and I hope you die!”  For a long time after Elaine’s death, guilt plagued Angie because she felt responsible.

So six-year-old Angie was dealing not only with guilt and fear that her words were powerful enough to cause her aunt’s death, she had lost her support system in her Grandma, Grandpa, Mom, Dad, and Uncle who were deeply grieving this loss. 

So in hypnosis, I was able to comfort my six-year-old and also to meet my Aunt Elaine.  She re-assured me it wasn’t my fault and told me how proud of me she was.  I cried and cried while under hypnosis.  It was very scary to re-visit this time, and it was also very healing.  I feel much more at peace.

I had previously tapped on this, but I’d not completely cleared the trauma.  With this session, I feel like I can relax and that I’m not responsible to rescue or save poor, helpless souls out there.

Since Elaine’s death, I began a pattern of attracting friends who I could help or rescue, probably as a way to redeem myself from “killing” my Aunt.  It also helped me to fixate on people’s victim natures.  Now it’s easier for me to see others’ strength and invulnerability.  My six-year-old taught me compassion, which is a gift I’m very grateful for.  I’ve thanked her for that and asked her to just relax.  Wow!

Peace & Blessings,

Angie Monko, 314-422-6520

PS: If you’re really serious about doing something different about your weight and body image issues, see the attached qualifying form. http://www.harmonyharbor.com/qual.html

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Dear Friends,

Starting June 15, I will begin a series of calls about meeting our four year old within that will continue through September.  I am dedicating this much time to this powerful topic because I believe it’s that vital to turning our lives around.  The reason this is so powerful is that by the time we are four years old, Jeru Kabbal explains in his book Finding Clarity, our defense system and personality are formed because, by then, we have already experienced everything we are going to experinece, love, rejection, sadness, aloneness, punishment, etc..  We’ve learned all of our major attitudes and strategies, and underlying all of this is the infant mentality that we are helpless and need someone to take care of us.  Our survival depends on it. 

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Peace & Blessings,

Angie Monko, 314-422-6520

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Are you hanging on to extra weight?  For whatever reason, you are hanging on to it because it doesn’t feel safe to let it go.  Like I have said before, your weight may be an excuse for you to “weigh” yourself down and prevent you from reaching your full potential. 

It makes for a heavy burden that you may subconsciously desire.  It’s almost as if your weight protects you.  What is it protecting you from? Your weight might even help you to feel more bold and solid on the Earth and less exposed, raw and vulnerable. 

Only you can decide why you hang on to extra weight.  Only you will know when it feels right to release it.  Until then, you will come up with every excuse in the book not to deal with the problem.  Don’t feel guilty about this, but be aware of it and recognize it. 

Just accept that this is where you are at because you choose this weight problem pain over the potential pain of looking within, over the fear of giving up your comfort food or comfortable habits, over the fear of spending money to invest in yourself, etc.  It might take money to buy exercise equipment, more healthy food choices, coaching, etc. 

Think about this.  If you aren’t willing to release your weight yet, ask yourself how long it will take you before you realize how much more you are losing out on life by delaying the decision. 

How much money have you already wasted on binge eating, diet pills, the favorite diet of the month, the magic elixir that will come and take away your desire to use food as an escape mechanism? 

Most importantly, how long are you willing to allow your food/weight problem to rob you of precious energy, energy that could be used to propel you forward in creating your dream life?  How much money have you lost in wasted potential?

I can confidently say that you will be looking a very LONG time for such a solution, because it doesn’t exist.  You must do the hard work of looking deep inside yourself for these answers.  It’s important to feel safe when letting go of an ingrained habit like overeating. 

Food has provided our comfort, safety and pleasure for so long.  Tapping can make the process much easier.  There are even ways to “sneak up on” the pain so that it is tolerable (the tearless trauma technique).  The tapping protocol (EFT) helps you to systematically isolate anything that could be a block, and then you tap on it.  Once you remove obstacles, you begin to make real progress. 

Have a blessed day!

Peace & Blessings,

Angie Monko, 314-422-6520

PS:  If you’re really serious about doing something different about your weight and body image issues, see the attached qualifying form. http://www.harmonyharbor.com/qual.html

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Dear Friends,

Consider picking up the book, “Finding Clarity,” by Jeru Kabbal, an eloquent and spiritual man who touched thousands of lives .  The last words that he wrote were:  “You are already that which you long to be.” 

How true this is!  Our search is over if we want it to be.  I’ve been aware of doing parts work for some time, where we identify different aspects of our subconscious, our inner child, teenager, and so forth.  Jeru describes this process clearly and simply. 

He explains that by the time we are four years old, our defense system and personality are formed because, by then, we have already experienced everything we are going to experinece, love, rejection, sadness, aloneness, punishment, etc..  We’ve learned all of our major attitudes and strategies, and underlying all of this is the infant mentality that we are helpless and need someone to take care of us.  Our survival depends on it.

Jeru suggests we become partners with our subconscious mind that records every single activity or experience in our lives.  Since our personality remembers how helpless we were as a child, we repeatedly play those “helpless” movies.  He suggests that our adult self has a conversation with our four-year-old self.  It might sound something like the following.

Per Jeru, “The goal is to re-educate this child by communicating to him or her:  ’Regardless of what you have learned in the past, regardless of what fears you have experienced, and what desires you have created, regardless of what strategies you practiced to stay alive, I want you to know tht you live with me now.  You are totally safe.  Someone is with you twenty-four hours a day.  I can take care of you better than anyone else in the world.  I am big and strong, I can earn a living, and I can take care of you.”

If you are intrigued by this topic and want to find clarity in your life, it is absolutely essential to create a partnership between your conscious, subconscious and super conscious (Higher) selves, putting the true powerhouse, the Higher Self, in charge.  I believe if you do this, life will begin to be easy and flowing. 

Here’s to the new management in town, the Higher Self!  I love knowing that I have hired a brilliant, creative, compassionate, loving, intelligent, powerful, peaceful, joyful, take-action boss to guide my inner “team.”  Knowing this, I can relax and let life come to me.  Will you join me?

Peace & Blessings,

Angie Monko, 314-422-6520

PS: If you’re really serious about doing something different about your weight and body image issues, see the attached qualifying form. http://www.harmonyharbor.com/qual.html

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Dear Friends,

I like to tack the following tapping onto the end of my daily tapping.  My approach to tapping (learn more at www.harmonyharbor.com) is to assess my prior day for anything that I felt bad or guilty about. I then just tap around the meridian points, simply talking to myself.

Basically, I’ve learned to become aware of my feelings, acknowledge them and tap on them, simultaneously.  I may even pray while doing this.  It doesn’t matter HOW we tap, but just that we do it. 

Gene Monterastelli is an EFT practitioner in Baltimore, MD, and here is her article.

“I think the way we end a tapping session is just as important as the way we begin it. For me the end of the session is more than a signing off process — it’s actually the next step in healing. When we tap it is not just a healing moment but part of a healing process that is going to continue throughout the day and throughout our life.

I like to spend time at the end of a session (especially an emotional one) setting up my entire body/mind system to continue this work throughout the day. The end of a session therefore often looks and sounds like this:

Karate Chop Spot:   I give thanks for the fact that I have this amazing power to heal.

Inner Eyebrow:  I give thanks for the time I have available to do this work.

Outer Eye:  I give thanks for my desire to continue with this work.

Under Eye:  The work I have done today is not just a healing moment

Under Nose:  but part of a healing process.

Under Mouth:  This healing process is going to continue throughout my day.

Collar Bone:  There will be times when I notice the healing continuing

Underarm:  and I will smile at the amazing power of my system.

Top of Head:  There will be other times when the healing continues in the background.

Inner Eyebrow:  I know full well that I don’t need to be conscious of the healing for it to continue.

Outer Eye:  This healing will cascade through my body, from cell to cell.

Under Eye:  I know this healing is one more step along the way.

Under Nose:  It is not just a healing of the moment

Under Mouth:  but also a building block, preparing me for the next piece of healing my system is ready for.

Collar Bone:  I know that as I continue this healing process, bit by bit,

Under Arm:  my whole system is going to heal in a natural way that will ensure that this is not a quick fix

Top of Head:  but a lasting change.

Inner Eyebrow:  Tonight as I sleep, the changes I have made in this session will work their way into every part of my system.

Under Eye:  So that when I awake tomorrow, I will be relaxed and refreshed.and looking at the world through new eyes, based on this healing.

Under Mouth:  I am so grateful.

Collar Bone:  I am so grateful.”

Try this!  It really feels great and is so quick.

Peace & Blessings,

Angie Monko, 314-422-6520

PS: If you’re really serious about doing something different about your weight and body image issues, see the attached qualifying form. http://www.harmonyharbor.com/qual.html

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Dear Friends,

Would you like to help with the oil spill tragedy but don’t know how?  I’m sure you’ve heard the saying, “If you’re not part of the solution, you’re part of the problem.”  Well, here is one way to be part of the solution.   There is so much fear and negativity around the oil spill.  It is very easy to get on the critical bandwagon and complain and gripe about it and blame everyone.  What good will that do though?  It’s been done.

We can be much more effective if we don’t buy into all of this fear and stay above it.  Consider not watching the news every day, at least not right before bed time.  

Join me in directing light to the Gulf at 9:00 p.m. Central Time every night for 5-10 minutes and saying the following prayer (I’m simply passing this on–I did not write this):

God or Higher Power,

Please give us the wisdom and knowledge of how to clean up the oil spill.

I pray for the:

Health of all sea and bird life;

Protection and good health of all of the cleanup workers;

Restoration of the livelihoods of Gulf coast residents;

Strength and guidance for the President and governmental leaders in:  cleaning up the spill, providing transition to those who have lost their livelihood, and forming new policies to prevent this kind of thing from happening again;

Forgiveness and compassion to those who caused it;

Guidance in what direction to take to prevent future catastrophies like this.

For the remainder of the time, send love to the Gulf area.

We can positively influence the creation of solutions by doing this prayer.  We are all connected as one collective consciousness, and so when one person is in fear and turmoil, it affects everyone.  The flip side is also true.  If we retain loving thoughts and just relax, this affects everyone as well.  Be peace.  Be love. 

Thanks for joining me in this prayer opportunity and for spreading your light.  I encourage you to send this prayer to everyone.  Keep spreading the hope and then expect miracles. 

Peace & Blessings,

Angie Monko, 314-422-6520

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Dear Friends,

Did you know that EFT works very well on physical pain, not just emotional issues?  If you suffer from headaches, joint pain, back pain or even a serious disease like diabetes or cystic fibrosis, EFT can very effectively help to relieve your symptoms. Why is this?

Our minds and bodies are inextricably woven, perfectly connected and dependent on each other.  So it makes sense that our emotions and our thoughts which affect our emotions have an effect on our physical bodies.  If we have limiting beliefs about ourselves and are consistently angry and resentful or sad, it will affect our health.

It may take a while for physical manifestations to show up in our body, but they will show up.  I highly recommend Louise Hay’s book You Can Heal Your Life.  She also released a movie with the same title.  In her book, she clearly draws the parallel between our emotional state of mind and our physical ailments. 

Louise healed herself of cancer.  I have read about countless cases of such miraculous healing.  The highlight of Louise’s book is a thorough list of physical problems and their corresponding probable emotional cause.  Next to each illness is a new thought pattern that you can recite to aid in the healing process. 

Here is an example:  “Allergies:  Who are you allergic to? Denying your own power.   The world is safe and friendly. I am safe.  I am at peace with life.”

If you use EFT in combination with the affirmations, it is even more powerful. I often refer to Louise’s list for myself, loved ones and clients to help me develop tapping phrases and understand what could be the core emotional issue causing the manifestation of disease or physical symptom.

Anger and resentment are two big culprits of disease.  It’s almost as if our bodies are “warning” us to release these emotions and deal with the underlying conflict.  Looking inside of ourselves may be difficult, but the most direct route to success is never the easier way “around” a problem but straight through the heart of it.

 Have a blessed day!

Much love,

Angie Monko, 314-422-6520

PS:  If you’re really serious about doing something different about your weight and body image issues, see the attached qualifying form. http://www.harmonyharbor.com/qual.html

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Dear Friends,

In these last 5 or 6 weeks, I’ve really grown to love my fruits and vegetables and all manner of live foods.  It feels very refreshing to feed my body loving, live food.  And the more I have done this, the closer I have felt to my authentic , spiritual self (the good, bad and the ugly). 

It has been a challenge to get my husband and two daughters equally enthusiastic about eating this way.  They are starchy pasta, potatoes, meat and chips kind of eaters.  They don’t share my zest for healthy eating.  In fact, they say they put up with my quirks.  That last part hurt because I feel I’ve put so much energy into influencing their health.

I honestly think it’s time to let it all go.  Let them make their own decisions.  Having said that, I love a good challenge!  I am determined to use my culinary skills to create awesome-tasting food for them.  So even if they won’t eat 100% raw and I don’t do that either, maybe they’ll do 20% raw and then maybe 30% and so forth.

The last two weeks, I’ve invested in quality kitchen equipment and added to my repertoire of a Vitamix and Athena alkaline water machine by purchasing an Excalibur, 9 drawer dehydrator, Cuisinart food processor and ice cream maker, Champion juicer, and plus a few extras, like a spiral slicer, various cook books and wonder cup.

I’ve already begun experimenting with raw food recipes, and they’ve been impressed with most of them.  I’m now set to begin experimenting and creating some culinary delights.  I’m excited about this!  I’ve always loved to cook and eat, and now I can do it with healthy food.  I even had the inspired idea to open a raw, organic restaurant in St. Louis.  One day at a time. 

You may recall that I’ve talked about opening a healing center in St. Louis.  Well one of the parts of that was to have an organic deli & retail shop.  This part really excited me.  What better way to get to know my community than to open a small restaurant.  Wish me luck and I welcome any feedback you might have about this.  Have a great weekend!  You’ll be hearing more about this topic, I’m sure.

Peace & Blessings,

Angie Monko, 314-422-6520

PS: If you’re really serious about doing something different about your weight and body image issues, see the attached qualifying form. http://www.harmonyharbor.com/qual.html

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Dear Friends,

My message is simple today.  See beyond our own shadow and those around us.  I know that I am more than just a physical human body (or even a hologram as some would say).  I am the Creator of all that I experience because I am an extension of God. 

When I feel down or angry, it is easy to fight this feeling.  I tend to want to expect to feel happy all of the time.   Although I do think it’s realistic to be in joy (a deeper sense of calm that all is well) at all times, I don’t think it’s realistic to avoid the negative side of human emotions.

Therefore, lately I’ve decided to just stop trying so much to ”mold” reality to my liking.  Why not mold my liking to reality?  When I act particularly bratty or spoiled, like I have been doing a lot here lately, I could just give up on myself and say, “Why do you even make the effort?  You can’t help anyone because you can’t even help yourself.” 

So I’ve been thinking that maybe I’m not meant to help others in the way I think I should.  Let me just allow myself to follow my moods and inspirations and let them take me where they will.  In this way, I give myself some space to breathe and process.  It does sort of feel like I’m floating around in the ocean, without any indication as to which way the wind will blow.  At least I left the shore, right?  In this way, I’m looking beyond my shadow into the murky unknown and trusting that God has something great in store for me.

Liken it to a very young child who is hungry and cranky after a day at the amusement park.  Most times, a mother is not going to get all mad at the child; instead she sees the situation as it is and comforts the child.  The mother “sees beyond the shadow.” 

The most loving thing we can do for ourselves and others is to see beyond the shadow, especially when someone is acting out rather foolishly, and even dangerously, to get attention.  We can see beyond the human limitations of this experience and just LOVE. 

I’m not very good at this, I admit.  I have stated to God that it’s important to me to relinquish my defects that stand in the way of my usefulness to God and to others.  I have asked Holy Spirit (the Illuminator, the Voice of God) to bridge the gap between my ego consciousness and my God consciousness.  I’ve invited this type of loving understanding of myself and others.  Loving understanding and compassion equals “seeing beyond the shadow.”  That is all I can do for today.  And that is enough.

Peace & Blessings,

Angie Monko, 314-422-6520

PS: If you’re really serious about doing something different about your weight and body image issues, see the attached qualifying form. http://www.harmonyharbor.com/qual.html

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